I am not Interested

I have seen myself saying that I am not interested in things which don’t see valuable enough to deploy my time. I also chose to leave the things which are out of my comfort zone.

Let me share a recent story. We all have some kind of lifestyle. Some people wake up early where others wake up late, some choose to prioritise social life over Personal Life. Many people value productivity more than fun. So there are different beliefs for different people.

I used to one of the person till my collage days. Who used to value personal growth and not usually socialise around with people. Whenever someone asked that let’s go out have fun. My obvious statement was – I am not interested, you go enjoy, I have some work to do for now. I will join you next time.

Then as they left for such parties, occasion or any kind of the event. I was the only left with nothing to do and then eventually waited for my friend’s to return. So we can talk and I also would dig into how was the event. Who all were there for the event.

This was a common thing for me to avoid social occasions. Which on a longer time frame was a good and a bad decision. In a good way, it helped me know myself better, I got more time to understand my weakness, strengths and who I was as a person.

I stretched the idea of personal life so far that it started hurting me. I had no such connections, I was a lone wolf who just did everything by himself. No that much of a big and charming social life. So then I decided to start connecting to people and stop being always focused on the personal space and everything around it.

The day I started reaching out to people with whatever that was on my mind and listening to their stories. It was a life changing experience for me. It gave me many new people to hang around who believed in my ideas, had same aspirations and dreams just like me. I started enjoying this thing even more than my personal endeavours.

I realised that it was not that I was not interested in hanging out and connecting with people yet I was fearing social rejection. I was not so confident. I was always looking that why should I reach out others they should come to me. This was a bad idea I had for a long time. The day I decided to change my mindset. Everything changed for ever.

Now I am more confident, connected, happy, positive and productive.
So a few lessons I learned from these incidences.

1. Never let your fears over power your choices of what’s interesting and what’s not interesting for you.
2. Things will change the day you decided to take the step in the direction.
3. Don’t fall into the trap of commitment and consistency. Just go for the things you want to. Never allow yourself into thinking that what others will react when I choose opposite what I used to say them.
4. There is no static or one personality type for a person, you can live whichever way you want to and whenever you want. So change it now. If you don’t love the way you live now.
5. When fears trap your mindset, use the no regret framework – always do it, try it, cause regret way much worse then anything else.

Questions of the week

1. What makes a thing interesting according to you ?
2. What is hard – to chase your dreams or to Seattle for your insecurities ?

Challenges of the week

1. Reach out to one new person every day for the next 15 days.
2. Commit to any one thing for at least 21days . which you were about to do yet not started cause of any reason.

Book I am reading this week

The sketchbook of wisdom by vishal Khandelwal – it offers timeless principles on wealth, relationships, happiness, health, investing and personal Development in the form of short stories.

Quote of the week

Things will change the day you change your belief and perspective.

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